“In the real world, Halloween is when kids dress up in costumes and beg for candy. In Girl World, Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.” -Cady Heron
As I tossed around ideas for this month’s article, something halloween themed seemed to be obvious given this is the time of year. However, the more I thought about the topic, the more torn I became as to whether to write about the relationship between dressing up very risque and what aspects of one’s personality they are trying to express or about the use of costumes in the bedroom, as a way to play out fantasy and spice up intimacy.
The top 10 sexy halloween costumes for 2013 comes from a published report on the Sacramento Bee conducted by Envy Corner, a business that specializes in selling costumes. The survey was done on Pinterest and Facebook on what people think the sexiest top 10 Halloween costumes would be for 2013. Over 1,500 users participated in the survey.I have chosen to write about the top 3 costumes.
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1. Sexy SWAT Agent Costume: This hot costume has a long sleeve crop top, tight pants, belt, and holster with gun. For all those women out there who want to come across as confident, intelligent, and physically capable, this is the costume for you. You get to show off your physical prowess in this costume and a don’t mess with me attitude. In the boudoir, take these above mentioned traits to role play with your partner the tough girl seeks and takes down her partner who has been very naughty....let your imaginations play out the rest of the scene. Available at spurst.com.
2. Nurse Anita B Naughty Costume: Featuring removable zip front top with red bra top, pleated skirt, garters, and nurse’s cap with stethoscope. This Halloween costume is sure to please your “patients.” Compassionate, empathetic, caring, intelligent, are all qualities that make a good nurse. Someone who takes care of you in your time of need. If you are looking to demonstrate these personality traits than this is the costume for you. In the bedroom, the caring, compassionate nurse comes to the aid of the ailing patient. She must carefully examine her patient and ever lovingly nurse her patient back to health. Or the patient, in their time of need is able to seduce this ever caring and ever professional nurse into a compromising position...you get the picture. Available at purecostumes.com.
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So, do we pick costumes to experience a different aspect of our personalities or to try on a new personality? Is it the equivalent of giving a new persona a test drive for the day. Is it true we literally show off a lot of ourselves because it is a day when most everyone dresses up in some sort of costume and thus we do not fear we will be judged for doing so? Is it for the compliments and kudos that come with wearing a great costume or for the attention something skimpy will garner?
The truth be told, the reason is individual for each person reading this column. Although this column was written in the spirit of fun and Halloween, if we dig deep and ponder about it for a while, we may learn something about ourselves. Do you want to be more playful? Do you want to be taken more seriously? Whatever personality trait you are hoping to portray or incorporate into your persona, you don’t need a costume to do so. All you need to be is honest with your self. Is there something getting in the way? Is it something you can work on yourself or with the help of family/friends? Or maybe it is something that talking to a professional such as a therapist or clergy member can help you figure it out. The beauty of this is that we have the ability to change, to grow, to improve and we don’t need costumes to do so.And I am sure you are wondering where the bedroom conversation fits into all of this. Well again honesty and open communication are keys to a good, exciting, and pleasurable experiences in the bedroom. If role playing or Halloween costumes turn you on, go for it! However, the real work comes in being honest and talking about your feelings relating to your sex life. Keeping it spicy has different meanings at different points in a relationship, for a couple early in their relationship it maybe as easy as 1-2-3 for couples with young children it may require making the time to spend together. Being honest and truthful with your self and being honest and truthful with your partner are the keys to spicing up your sex lives. The costumes are optional.
Please enjoy this column in it's full glory in the October Issue of Fashion Affair Magazine
www.fashionaffairmagazine.com p.98-99
